Marriage or relationship counseling is a form of psychotherapy that aims to help couples improve their relationship and re-establish their marriage or relationship. It is estimated that over 25% of marriages in the United States will fail within a five year period, as many couples experience conflict over how to solve problems and satisfy needs. Couples treatment usually attempts to resolve interpersonal conflicts and improve interpersonal relationships. Couples who are unable to communicate effectively, experience anger, power struggles, or difficulties with boundaries may benefit from marriage or relationship counseling. Visit Spencer Chernick, LMFT – ADHD, Couples, Teens, Children, San Diego.
When one considers the benefits of marriage counseling, the first and foremost benefit is that it offers a safe avenue for the couple to discuss their problems in a confidential, loving manner. The counselor and the couple may speak about their marital issues over an individual-to-one counseling session, through group discussion sessions, or over the phone. One also hears the other person’s viewpoint, so that each person’s needs and concerns are heard clearly, rather than being left with assumptions or rumors. During the counseling process, both partners are encouraged to think out-of-the-box and creatively come up with new solutions to marital problems, which may not have been thought of before. Through this, a couple can increase their closeness and their love for each other. It is also believed that through counseling, a couple will be able to save their marriage or relationship after experiencing what is often referred to as the “honeymoon phase”.
However, it is also important to consider the importance of being open and honest with one’s self, prior to beginning the marriage or relationship counseling process. This can be a difficult step, but should be undertaken, as it can help keep the lines of communication open between the partners, which is so vital to the success of the marriage or relationship. By being open and honest, it is also hoped that more than just one problem or concern may arise, as both partners will feel much less threatened by the other. Finally, it is important to consider that it is the marriage or relationship counselor’s duty to provide an objective view, based on their experience. They should not take an emotional stand either, as this could create a negative impression for the client. If a client feels like the marriage or relationship counselor is emotionally tied to their opinion, they are likely to be more supportive of them, rather than objective.
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